And it's possible to say yes to a person (reflect what you see in them, value them) but no to an idea. Good distinction.

• 00:00 🤔 Asking questions when you don't understand something is essential, even if it makes you feel like an "idiot" in the room.
• 01:00 🗣️ Speaking up about not understanding can encourage others to do the same and prevent misunderstandings in important discussions.
• 01:42 📚 Avoiding the fear of looking stupid allows for deeper understanding and clearer communication of complex ideas.
• 01:56 🔄 Once you grasp a concept thoroughly, simplify it to help others understand it better.
• 02:10 💡 There is value in being the one who asks questions until a concept becomes understandable to everyone in the room.

There's only accepting...the choosing was done a long time ago.

I am distinguishing mental suffering from physical pain. Pain occurs in the body and is a physical reaction—like when you stub your toe or break an arm. The suffering I speak of occurs in the mind only and describes things such as worry, anger, anxiety, regret, jealousy, shame, and a host of other negative mental states. I know it’s a big claim to say that all these kinds of suffering are the result of a fictitious sense of self. For now, the essence of this idea is captured brilliantly by Taoist philosopher and author Wei Wu Wei when he writes, “Why are you unhappy? Because 99.9 percent of everything you think, and of everything you do, is for yourself — and there isn’t one.”

00:58 1. Who are you spending time with?
01:43 2. Is this in my control?
02:34 3. What does your ideal day look like?
03:41 4. To be or to do?
04:30 5. If I am not for me, who is? If I am only for me, who am I?
05:31 6. What am I missing by choosing to worry or be afraid?
06:15 7. Are you doing your job?
06:59 8. What is the most important thing?
08:07 9. Who is this for?
08:48 10. Does this actually matter?
09:38 11. Will this be alive time or dead time?
10:49 12. Is this who I want to be?
11:33 BONUS: What is the meaning of life?

Skill...Life is not pleasurable without learning a skill or discipline. Hmmm..

It's a piece of music where you're expected to sing or play or add to the composition as it is played...Or a dance...It's not a destination on a journey. Enjoy the journey is right but more...life is the journey....life is a piece of music and you are...a player. Harmonize, contribute as best you can. Don't rush to the end.

Newton's flaming laser sword: If something cannot be settled by experiment or observation, then it is not worthy of debate.